I recall a time when one of my cousins came to me telling me all the things happening to him and how he was tired of living. He was subtly threatening me that he wanted to end his life. For some reason my response was spontaneous and harsh; please go and let us know how many of us is remaining to share the limited resources (food) available.
With hindsight, that was a sharp insensitive response that I would not give with a hind sight but the truth is that Life happens to all. DO YOU RESPONSE OR REACT when life throws its punch at you?
You may be asking what the difference is. There is a huge difference between the 2 and the difference is in the outcome.
Outcome of reaction is irritation, getting stuck, throwing out tantrums at people around you, playing the blame game etc. but the response of response is inward reflection , outward assessment, taking responsibility , looking for lesson(s) learnt, improved capacity…etc.
The following analogy or experiment perfectly illustrates how we all respond to life struggles when we come across it.
When you take a kettle of water, heat up to boiling temperature, pour the boiling water to the following items (Fresh Egg, Carrot and tea bag) let’s see what happens to them after sometime .
The Egg gets hardened; the carrot becomes soft while the tea bag changed by infusing its content to move from one state to another and at the same time changing the water to tea.
Boiling water is figuratively the life that happens to everyone… no one is immuned to it.
How do you ride on life storms? Like the Eagle that use the storms to soar or the chicken that runs for cover?
How have you responded to life up till now? CARROT, EGG and TEA BAG.
Is there a need to change? How do you hope to change? Let me hear from you. Share your experience for others to learn from you in the comments.