For a very long time I lived with this question in my mind of why people easily don’t understand me. I was not necessarily desperate but really eager to have people tick the like button on me. Though it did happen but it was at a cost; cost of loosing me; cost of doing everything possible to conform to people’s expectation; cost of me not understanding my action therefore unable to explain the WHY of those actions( Since I was living other peoples’ scripts.
It’s a life of silent frustration as human manipulators hijacked this to turn me to their toys and redesign me to their own version of me.
You have no idea how long this went on in my life. I was living to please that friend, family, colleague, spouse, parents, in laws, the communities I found myself in.Conforming to their expectations and ignoring my expectations of me.
DOES THIS RESONATES WITH YOU? Do you find yourself like this to be a tiny bit like Me?
I was there and it wasn’t a pleasurable experience . You live not pleasing yourself and living other peoples’ scripts.
IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS YOU CAN NEVER HAVE THE BEST SHOT AT LIFE!
It’s time to get out of the box that you have put yourself in. Yes..you read well. You said yes to the scripts of the others..it was not forced on you. Yes I know how it is like to not be liked and you want them to be like. FLASH NEWS- Everybody cannot like you and neither can you like everybody?
Have you sat to think that you too have people that are not on your favorite list because of who they are?How do you treat them ?Do you also try to fit them into your own box of expectations? If yes then you are as guilty as the people we are referring to .
Why do people do this? It’s natural to gravitate towards what you are familiar with, so when you meet with unfamiliar character traits ; you are left with 2 options –
1. To accommodate to understand if you can live with it or move away if it bothers on an integral value you uphold highly.
2. Unable to accommodate and cope with it so you try to emotionally manipulate the person to fit your expectations .
These are the 2 reactions we give and receive when we come across people whose values are not similar to ours.
So you as a victim in the box, what do you do to gain your freedom and start living to be you in your comfortable space..?
I shared the way out in the video below. Please watch and leave a comment on how the video RESONATE with you.
Atinuke O
