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How You Give Yourself Away Unknowingly! #TAKE IT BACK

For a very long time I lived with this question in my mind of why people easily don’t understand me. I was not necessarily desperate but really eager to have people tick the like button on me. Though it did happen but it was at a cost; cost of loosing me; cost of doing everything possible to conform to people’s expectation; cost of me not understanding my action therefore unable to explain the WHY of those actions( Since I was living other peoples’ scripts.

It’s a life of silent frustration as human manipulators hijacked this to turn me to their toys and redesign me to their own version of me.

You have no idea how long this went on in my life. I was living to please that friend, family, colleague, spouse, parents, in laws, the communities I found myself in.Conforming to their expectations and ignoring my expectations of me.

DOES THIS RESONATES WITH YOU? Do you find yourself like this to be a tiny bit like Me?

I was there and it wasn’t a pleasurable experience . You live not pleasing yourself and living other peoples’ scripts.

IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS YOU CAN NEVER HAVE THE BEST SHOT AT LIFE!

It’s time to get out of the box that you have put yourself in. Yes..you read well. You said yes to the scripts of the others..it was not forced on you. Yes I know how it is like to not be liked and you want them to be like. FLASH NEWS- Everybody cannot like you and neither can you like everybody?

Have you sat to think that you too have people that are not on your favorite list because of who they are?How do you treat them ?Do you also try to fit them into your own box of expectations? If yes then you are as guilty as the people we are referring to .

Why do people do this? It’s natural to gravitate towards what you are familiar with, so when you meet with unfamiliar character traits ; you are left with 2 options –

1. To accommodate to understand if you can live with it or move away if it bothers on an integral value you uphold highly.
2. Unable to accommodate and cope with it so you try to emotionally manipulate the person to fit your expectations .

These are the 2 reactions we give and receive when we come across people whose values are not similar to ours.

So you as a victim in the box, what do you do to gain your freedom and start living to be you in your comfortable space..?

I shared the way out in the video below. Please watch and leave a comment on how the video RESONATE with you.

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5 Money Questions To ASK Each Day

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In my quest for improvement in my career and business; I have discovered the power of questioning. The Questions you are asking yourself determines how far you want to travel on the journey of life.  This applies to all areas of your life; Career, Business, Relationship, Health, Spiritual etc. When you ask empowering questions in any particular area of your life it unlocks your potentials, creativity, innovation etc.

Hence in the Winning with money series; I would like to share with you 5 empowering personal finance questions you do should to ask yourself if you desire to achieve financial independence, confidence and freedom.


Answering these questions may lead to new discoveries and enable you to make or review your money or personal finance decisions with the aim of achieving any financial set goals you have made. Answering these questions could open your eyes to know what you need to do to improve your financial life to achieve confidence, independence and freedom.

Do you have a loan or credit card debt ?       

For you to have a healthy financial life, your net worth should be in the POSITIVE i.e.  What you owe is less than what you own must be positive. If you find this skewed in the opposite direction; then it might be because of loans and credit card debt. (If you have watched my video 3 Never to Do with Money).The use of debt to fund your lifestyle should not be encouraged so STOP.  If the answer to this question is yes; the first step to do is to decide to eliminate the loans/credit to at least achieve a break even position in your net worth.

Do you have a personal budget?         

Does the word “BUDGET” send shivers to your body? If it does; you are not the only one. There is a myth on budget that it is technical term that requires some technical knowledge own to be able to have one. It is not truth. Budget is simply giving your money (every penny) an assignment. It is a managing or control tool. You simply prepare a plan for the week/month/quarter/year as you are most comfortable with, of how you spend your money. Assign every penny you earn.

How much do you know about investment?     

Are you investing? If you are not investing then, how are you multiplying your money? Answering this question will make you to realise that you need to start or continue investing to attain financial success. You can determine and afford the lifestyle you desire just by earning the income to support it.

Have thought of saving for Retirement?

That is one question that you need to take care of as early as possible in your working life. Planning for retirement is usually left to the end of many people’s work life. At this time it is challenging and the effort required would be doubled that which would have been put in if it was earlier on in your working life. Waiting till later puts so much pressure on you that may ultimately impact on your health or enthusiasm to life.

Do you have an emergency fund?

Everybody should have an emergency fund. This is an ingredient in the recipe for financial success. This is a fund set aside for the rainy day, when the unplanned or unforeseen happens and this requires spending eg when that car develops a major fault that you did not have a warning or someone in the family falls sick or dies and a funeral spending has to take place. The emergency happens to all. It is not IF but WHEN it’s going to happen. So when it happens, what do you? Who do you go to for the needed fund? Bank (for loan), Credit Card Company or family and friends that are planning their finances (hence have extra to lend you). The ancient book says the “The Borrower is the slave to the Lender”

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The 7C’s of Achievers

After having studied and research top achievers and peak performers indifferent walks of life over the years, I’ve concluded that these unique men and women have, in most cases, mastered what can be call the Seven C’s of Achievers.

1. Clarity: True success comes from being clear on who you are, what you believe in and what you want.
2. Competence: You can’t climb to the next rung on the ladder until you are excellent at what you do now.
3. Constraints: A majority of obstacles to success come from within. Find out what is constraining in you and deal with it.
4. Concentration: The ability to focus on one thing single-mindedly and see it through until it’s done takes more character than anything else.
5. Creativity: Flood your life with ideas from many sources. Creativity needs to be exercised like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it.
6. Courage: Most in demand and least in supply, courage is the willingness to do the things you know are right.
7. Continuous learning: Read—at the very least—one book a week on career or business to keep you miles ahead of the competition. And just as you eat and bathe, organize your time so you can spend 30 minutes a day exploring email, sending messages, browsing websites, because like exercise, it’s the only way you can keep on top of tech. If you get away from it, you’ll lose your edge.